Recovery, Indifference & Nutrition. 3 strategies to win.

Caring. There were many days I woke up and just didn't care. My confidence calmly commanded my lips to lie. The lie of indifference. I didn't care if people stared. It didn't matter if there was a hereafter. I didn't mind if you weren't kind. Worst possibly, I really didn't care about, me. 

There are many things I used to remain indifferent on. Things like the music I decided to listen to. Food I chose to eat. Even the actions I determined to use.

The Lie of Indifference

Yes and no always come in a pair. When we say yes to something, we are by default saying no to something else. Likewise this works the other way as well. When we remain indifferent we are still making a yes and no decision. This decision is chosen on our values. If our core values are comfort and pleasure, subconsciously every decision we make will be made on these two values. Being how people are typical to go toward the path of least amount of resistance and pain, comfort and pleasure are usually on the top of many peoples list unknowingly. This is why often the choices we make do not reflect the values we think we hold true. There are others "secretly" higher in priority. Our decisions on what we allow in to our body are vitally important. It is now time to introduce, the second action and necessity.

The Second Action and Necessity

In my blog The Detox I explain about the Three Actions and Three Necessities of Recovery. The second action Reading, teams up with the second necessity Nutrition. This is all about what we allow in. Nutrition isn't limited to to foods that we eat. It encompasses all which nourish us. To remain healthy we must be wholly healthy. We need our spiritual spaghetti, our mental meat, as well as the bread for our body. The things we choose to ingest in all these aspects, absolutely effects what becomes of us. Here is an example.

Ever heard of Novak Djokovic? He might be the fittest tennis player who has stepped on the court. This guy eats gluten-free, dairy free, nearly sugar free. He trains three times a day 365 days a year. He reads motivational books, meditates and practises yoga. From the moment he wakes until the time he goes to bed, he is only focused on improving his tennis. This is why he has been able to be the #1 ranked tennis player. Notice everything he ingests sole purpose is to propel his tennis performance. From the food he eats (body), the books he reads (mind), meditation (spirit), and his rigorous training regimen. They all nourish him. Talk about intention and focus.

Nutrition for our body. 

Yeah, yeah. Eat healthy. We get it. Hold on a minute. I have 3 new ways to go about this. Three ways to become more mindful about our fueling patterns.  Number 1. I can't stress this enough, eat for energy not boredom. Number 2. Get an idea how many calories you should be taking in and track what you eat for a week. Number 3. Eat smaller portions, more often. We are looking at every three hours. That means healthy snacks. Even a protein bar or shake would do. Just doing these three alone will dramatically make a difference. Get this in check then move on to eating whole healthy foods. Here is a guide to simply eating healthy. You can also use the app MyFitnessPal to track your calories. Lastly MyPlate has a ton of additional resources to use. 

Nutrition for our mind.

The mind is both emotional and intellectual. Let us focus fist on emotional.

What does it mean to be emotionally healthy? Simply stated keeping your intelligence before your emotions. What that means is that we question the feelings themselves. We use our emotions as the information that they are, to how we are responding to the world around us. Without spending this whole blog on this subject there are a couple questions :

1) Why am I feeling the way? 
2) What must I believe for this to be true? 
3) What other perspectives are there to this situation? 
4) Can I use one of these perspectives to better serve my situation?

One other aspect I must discuss is happiness. Being able to manage our state of mind is what this all boils down to. Continually appreciating all that we have, the good and the bad is vital. Try beginning and ending your day with 3 things you appreciate. This is like the yeast for your rising bread of life.

Second are options. Having a ton of happiness options is key to being able to change state. Make a list of things that can instantly change your state positively. Running, walking, make a happy music play list, dancing, laughing (make a youtube list of hilarious videos), playing with your kids, reading, word puzzles, affirmations, motivational videos, etc. This is going to be your arsenal to use when negative emotions come along unwanted or just hang around too long.

Being intellectually healthy is remaining curious. Symptoms include learning lessons from other peoples stories and ingesting information you are interested in. It is said that we are a sum of our 5 closest friends. In the beginning of recovery we are often alone. So authors become our influence when we read them. Musicians influence us when we listen to them. Be aware of the choice you are making by what we allow to our core.  Make, time, to learn. 

Nutrition for our spirit.

"Once upon a time, there was a Cherokee grandfather, who told his grandson, “Grandson, there are two wolves inside of me. One wolf is white, good and altruistic, generous and kind, and the other wolf is black, mean and greedy, violent and angry. The two wolves are in a constant fight within me.” The grandson, with wide eyes, says, “But which one will win, grandpa?” And the grandfather says, “The one which I feed.”
This story illustrates vividly that we do indeed need to nourish our spirit, or, we will be nourishing it's opposite. How do we nourish spirit? Seek to understand those who we do not understand. We will realize how often our impressions are initially wrong. This often develops compassion. Contribution to others without expectation. This includes smiling to everyone, donating time or money to a cause which you are concerned about and even something to eat. Prayer and meditation are pivotal. If you don't know how to meditate try using the app HeadSpace. It's free and long enough to teach you how to meditate on your own.

Let us leave the lie of indifference far from our lips. We care because we know the nutrition of our person goes far beyond just food. All aspects of our self is need of nourishment to be healthy. This on going maintenance on our selves is non other than self respect. It is caring for who we are. It isn't easy to take care of ourselves wholly and honestly. If it was everyone would be doing it. 

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  1. Excellent post! I will share this with my son who needs to read this. Thank you!


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